A
Blessing of Thorns
Sandra
felt as low as the heels of her shoes as she pushed against a November
gust and the florist shop door. Her life had been easy, like a spring
breeze. Then in the fourth month of her second pregnancy, a minor
automobile accident stole her ease.
During
this Thanksgiving week she would have delivered a son. She grieved
over her loss. As if that weren't enough, her husband's company
threatened a transfer. Then her sister, whose annual holiday visit
she coveted, called saying she could not come.
What's
worse, Sandra's friend infuriated her by suggesting her grief was
a God-given path to maturity that would allow her to empathize with
others who suffer. "She has no idea what I'm feeling," thought Sandra
with a shudder.
"Thanksgiving?
Thankful for what?" she wondered aloud. For a careless driver whose
truck was hardly scratched when he rear-ended her? For an airbag
that saved her life but took that of her child?
"Good
afternoon, can I help you?"
The
shop clerk's approach startled her.
"I
- I need an arrangement," stammered Sandra. "For Thanksgiving."
Dou
you want beautiful but ordinary, or would you like to challenge
the day with a customer favorite I call the Thanksgiving Special?"
asked the shop clerk.
"I'm
convinced that flowers tell stories," she continued.
"Are
you looking for something that conveys 'gratitude' this Thanksgiving?"
"Not
exactly!" Sandra blurted out. "In the last five months, everything
that could go wrong has gone wrong."
Sandra
regretted her outburst, and was surprised when the shop clerk said,
"I have the perfect arrangement for you."
Then
the door's small bell rang, and the shop clerk said, "Hi Barbara
- let me get your order." She politely excused herself and walked
toward a small workroom, then quickly reappeared, carrying an arrangement
of greenery, bows, and long-stemmed thorny roses.
Except
the ends of the rose stems were neatly snipped - there were no flowers.
"Want
this in a box?" asked the clerk.
Sandra
watched for the customer's response. Was this a joke? Who would
want rose stems with no flowers!?! She waited for laughter, but
neither woman laughed. "Yes, please," Barbara replied with an appreciative
smile.
"You'd
think after three years of getting the special, I wouldn't be so
moved by its significance, but I can feel it right here, all over
again," she said as she gently tapped her chest.
"Uhh,"
stammered Sandra, "that lady just left with, uhh . she just left
with no flowers!"
"Right
. I cut off the flowers. That's the special. I call it the Thanksgiving
Thorns Bouquet."
"Oh,
come on, you can't tell me someone is willing to pay for that?"
Barbara
came into the shop three years ago feeling very much like you feel
today," explained the clerk. She thought she had very little to
be thankful for. She had lost her father to cancer, the family business
was failing, her son was into drugs, and she was facing major surgery."
"That
same year I had lost my husband," continued the clerk, "and for
the first time in my life, I had to spend the holiday alone. I had
no children, no husband, no family nearby, and too great a debt
to allow any travel."
"So
what did you do?" asked Sandra.
"I
learned to be thankful for thorns," answered the clerk quietly.
"I've always tanked God for good things in life and never thought
to ask Him why those things happened to me, but when bad stuff hit,
did I ever ask! It took time for me to learn that dark times are
important. I always enjoyed the 'flowers' of life, but it took thorns
to show me the beauty of God's comfort. You know, the Bible says
that God comforts us when we're afflicted, and from His consolation
we learn to comfort others."
Sandra
sucked in her breath as she thought about the very thing her friends
had tried to tell her. "I guess the truth is I don't want comfort.
I've lost a baby and I'm angry with God."
Just
then someone else walked in the shop.
"Hey
Phil!" shouted the clerk to the balding, rotund man.
"My
wife sent me in to get our usual Thanksgiving arrangement - twelve
thorny, long-stemmed stems!" laughed Phil as the clerk handed him
a tissue-wrapped arrangement from the refrigerator.
"Those
are for your wife?" asked Sandra incredulously. "Do you mind me
asking why she wants something that looks like that?"
"No.
I'm glad you asked," Phil replied. "Four years ago my wife and I
nearly divorced. After forty years, we were in a real mess, but
with the Lord's grace and guidance, we slogged through problem after
problem. He rescued our marriage. Jenny her (the clerk) told me
she kept a vase of rose stems to remind her of what she learned
from 'thorny' times, and that was good enough for me. I took home
some of those stems. My wife and I decided to label each one for
a specific 'problem' and give thanks to Him for what that problem
taught us."
As
Phil paid the clerk, he said to Sandra, "I highly recommend the
Special!"
I
don't know if I can be thankful for the thorns in my life," Sandra
said to the clerk. "It's all to, fresh."
"Well,"
the clerk replied carefully, "my experience has shown me that thorns
make roses more precious. We treasure God's providential care more
during trouble than at any other time. Remember, it was a crown
of thorns that Jesus wore so we might know His love. Don't resent
the thorns."
Tears
rolled down Sandra's cheeks. For the first time since the accident,
she loosened her grip on resentment. "I'll have them read in a minute."
"Thank
you. What do I owe you?" asked Sandra.
"Nothing."
said the clerk. "Nothing but a promise to allow God to heal your
heart. The first year's arrangement is always on me." The clerk
smiled and handed a card to Sandra.
"I'll
attach this card to your arrangement, but maybe you'd like to read
it first."
It
read:
"Dear
God, I have never thanked you for my thorns. I have thanked you
a thousand times for my roses,
but
never once for my thorns. Teach me the glory of the cross I bear;
teach me the value of my thorns.
Show
me that I have climbed closer to you along the path of pain. Show
me that, through my tears, the colors of your rainbow look much
more brilliant."
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